Since being diagnosed with RA and Fibro in February this year, life has proven to be challenging. While I would definitely refer to the last six months as a roller coaster ride, the lows have been incredibly low, and I would be lying if I said I hadn’t experience some depression as a result of learning to deal with these conditions, and everything that goes along with them. For me, being depressed presented itself in a few classic symptoms: lethargy, inability to find pleasure in the things that normally would make me happy, crying a lot, disturbed sleep. But the worst effect that depression had on me? A complete absence of motivation to do anything! Getting out of bed was a challenge. Showering felt too hard. I didn’t even have the mental stamina to read a chapter of a book. While this lack of motivation initially stemmed from avoiding activities due to pain, it continued to grow, and the lower my mood went, the less I wanted to do anything. It was awful, and I hated it – but couldn’t be bothered doing anything to change it.
In my previous post, I wrote about the joy I have found in hot yoga. But there is something else that has helped me begin to move forward in my life. Something seemingly small and insignificant… but which managed to light a little flicker of motivation within me. A humble To-Do list!
My very first list contained three items. 1) Have a shower. 2) Make some porridge. 3) Put a load of washing on. VERY basic. Keep in mind that at this time I could barely find the motivation or energy to get out of bed in the morning. So while these three items were all just every-day, easy tasks – tasks that the average person wouldn’t even think about – I put them on my list and told myself that if I just could do those three things, my day had been successful. After I had a shower, I got a pen, and put a big line through the first item on my list. I was amazed at how satisfying this was! After I made some porridge, I drew a line through the second item. Even more satisfying – and I only had one item to go. Once the load of washing had been put on, I had a completed list… and I felt the best I had felt in months. All from completing three basic tasks that I had written down, and crossing them off as I went.
Each day, I now wake up and write a to-do list of stuff I want to get done that day. The lists have now gone beyond basic tasks, and I am beginning to feel productive and worthwhile. I am kind to myself – some days I am exhausting and flaring, and I may not even get ¼ of my list crossed off. But I am setting goals, and being productive – and slowly but surely, my motivation is returning, and I am becoming excited about life again. And it all began with a humble list.
So if you are feeling low, and struggling to get going, give a to-do list a go! Start slow, and be kind to yourself. I’m pretty sure you will find it to be a definite step in the right direction. I have gone from feeling completely and utterly hopeless… to believing that I CAN and WILL have a fulfilling, wonderful life – and I won’t be held back by my chronic illnesses. One step – and one list – at a time, I will get there. And so will you.
Sending you all strength, love and peace.
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